How to text your crush for the first time
The first text is the highest-stakes-feeling, lowest-actual-stakes message you'll send all week. The trick is to give them something specific to react to — not just 'hey'.
Almost every crush you've ever had has not been ruined by a slightly clunky first text. They have been ruined by no text at all. Send something — short is fine, specific is better.
A good first text does one of three things: references something only the two of you would get, asks a question they'll genuinely want to answer, or sets up a small plan. Anything else (especially 'hey' or 'wyd') just hands them homework.
Reply options you can copy
Tap copy, then paste into your chat.
Saw a [thing you talked about] today and immediately thought of you. Anyway hi.
Random — what was that [bar / song / book] you mentioned the other day? Suddenly need it.
I've been thinking about that thing you said and I'm still not over it.
Hey — I've been meaning to text you. I had a good time the other day and wanted to say so.
There's a place I think you'd like — want to grab a drink there this week?
[Send the meme / photo] this is you
Or tune one to your exact message
Common questions
Should I double-text if they don't reply?
Wait a day or two. If you have a real reason to text again (something specific, not just 'hey?'), a single follow-up is fine. Three messages in a row with no answer is too many.
How long should the first text be?
One to three sentences. Long opening paragraphs read as nervous. Short and specific reads as confident.
Is it weird to text first?
No. The person who texts first looks interested, not desperate. Most of the time they were hoping you would.